The change is in you.

I don't blame anyone that has bad habits or weird emotion etc. I think human behaviour and how they behave is actually being affected by the environment that they are brought up with. For example: There is this girl that I know do not go round the bush and always go straight to the point regardless of how the other party feels. Later on, I realise that the whole family is actually like that. So I don't blame her for being like that. Being brought up this way, and thinking that this is the only option to live is to be straight forward regarding herself and care about the feelings of others. But however it is the responsibility of others to tell them in a nice way, and it is thier own personal responsibility to change, because they know that there is an option to change. The change is in you.

Dilemma.

Sometime in life you face dilemma. Have you ever heard of white lie? A white lie is a lie that hides the truth from a person(s) so that the person will not get hurt. In a relationship, am I right to say you are to be truthful to the person that you love? but what if you tell the person and he/she reacted in a very inappropriate way and you know it? People, kindly take note, if you want your partner to be truthful to you, you must be able to react correctly, don't let he/she decide to whether tell you or not. You decide by reacting correctly from the first time. Think logically. That is, unless he/she purposely hide it from you regardless of your reaction, then the story is different.

Things are the same.

Have you ever wondered? Why after some time of being in a relationship, you realised that there are so many other better people that are in your life that are better qualified to be in your life? My friend once told me: " When you are attached to a girl, you will realise that all the other girls out there are better than the one that you are attached to." After a year later then I realise why he said that. Firstly, You know the person that you are attached to more. Both the positive and negative aspect. Whereas those other people that you feel were nicer are the people you don't know that well of. And might only know the positive side of them. Just in case if you think that this phenomenon is weird, it is perfectly normal to think this way, cause a logical mind will tell you this. But however do not worry and thought that your relationship has gone down the drain, cause it haven't. It only shows that you know the person better than the rest of the people in your circle. My another friend once told me:" To love someone, you must be able to love all of the person, including both the positive and the negative side of the person."

Take Control

Many times people are often frustrated on the things that is beyond thier control. And neglect the things which they can do and take control. Most of the times, if you react the right way, it will make your day. But if you react wrongly, it will create a chain reaction. Take for example, when someone say that you are fat, what you going to do? How you going to react? You could react:

1. Sulk the whole day. Go into a restuarant, had so much food that you never had in your life and proof the commentor right. Or...

2. Take that as a compliment. Watch your diet, do whatever you can to prevent them from saying that to you again.

Take control of whatever you can control. Don't sulk and swear on the things that you can't control. Cause it will create a chained reaction that will lead the wrong way. Often.

Giving out your happiness

Funny how day to day incident can show you lessons on life. I was watching "My Name is Earl" (last show that you would think can teach you something), when the final quote says "Sometime you must give up happiness in return for more happiness"(to yourself as well as others).

Individually connected.

Humans are made to socialize with one another. Yet no one is connected to anyone. The only thing that connect us are the relationship or bond that is created. When humans get so used to the relationship that are form over a period of time, they tend to be lost and frustrated. And thought that they can't live without the relationship. Think again, were you born always connected to only a single entity? At anyone point, there is more than one relationship going on in your life. So once one is broken ain't there any other relationship you can live for or create?

Greediness will lead to nothing.

It has been in my mind for a while already. This is a warning to all the guys and gals out there. In a relationship there isn't such a thing call greediness. It is either "monogamy" or risk losing all of it. Especially the guys, you cannot have more than one girl in your "portfolio" as you might lose them both together. Why i say that? Cause there is a friend of mine ever told me once: ' The difference between a male and female is, the male has alot of "seeds", whereas the female has only one "egg" at a time. This explains why men tend to spread their "seeds" as much as possible, whereas women tend to treasure that one man they have." This is the character difference between the sexes. Whatever it is, for those who want to 'invest' in more than one person take note. Especially guys, feel what the girl would feel as she will treasure the only man that she wants in her life.

Disclaimer: Not all male/female are like what is described above.